I
have butterflies in my stomach… And I think I am getting more butterflies as
the day inch closer to our agreed date.
We
are now at the stage where lots of things need to be prepared to commemorate
the conjoining of our lives together. This is also the time I had fear the most
and despise. I have to remind myself that you will not be able to taste your
harvest if you do not plant it first.
This
is also the time where you get to see the ugly side of the people around you. I
had just heard of stories how some people would not go to a wedding just
because the name of their invitation cards was spelt incorrectly. How could
they forsake the ties of relationship over the petty things? I guess, if that
happen to me, I will know the people around me better. Those who choose to
create a big fuss over small matter rather than securing the love and good will
to each others. I make doa that I too will not be these sort of people…
I
always wonder, ever since I was involved in weddings, why o why people always
want their ways in someone wedding. I do not mind suggestions but to push your
ideas so much so that it meant we have to do it really bugs me. If that
suggestions or ideas give me benefits in the hereafter as well as making my
wedding to be blessed further by Allah, I do not mind. But, it surprises me how
much we care about what others think instead. We do things just so we make
people around us happy. Yet, nobody had ever asked us how we want our wedding
to be. I had not heard people asking that question in the wedding planning
meetings or when being told you are getting married. Nobody care about the
bride and groom happiness…
I
guess that is the start of the chain of unhappiness. The previous generation
always burdens us with their wants and wishes.
We, the current generation who is getting married HAVE to carry it out,
mostly out of respect and to make our elders happy. Carrying their dreamt
wedding with them since the day they got married until the day their own
children will marry, they now entrust their own wishes to their children so
that they can see the wedding that they wanted so much materialize… This is
very sad but please, as long as our wants and wishes do not go against Islam,
can you please let us have our own wedding? Tied with our wishes, dreamt and
wants that will make our wedding OURS? We should learn to let go and stop
thinking of what people will say… Please watch this interesting video regarding
on what will the people say. Click here.
Truly
if we stop being selfish and open to changes, we can break this sad chain… I
promised insyaallah that I will not do the same thing to my children. Let them
have the wedding that they wanted as long as we satisfy Allah needs and
requirements and does not burden the bride and groom financially.
I
mean, people around us want so many things in the wedding but nobody check the
cost to produce or get the things. IT IS EASIER to say it than to PAY IT. Some people
just say it for the sake of saying it. Truly, we need to learn to ignore these
people as they will only ruin us by burdening us unnecessarily. If they are
willing to shell out and cover the cost for whatever suggestion they brought
up, by all means, no problem provided it is not against Islam.
As it had been
mentioned, you will always being tested especially when you want to do
something good. I just doa that I have the strength to endure all these, that
my wife to be understand and willing to compromise and work together and the
people around us easier to cooperate with whatever needs and wishes we have…
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